A as a psychotherapist, the work I do gets misunderstood all the time. People have commented to me about how they could never do the work I do. They ask me how I could listen to problems all day long. Coming from their perspective, I can understand why they have the opinion that they do.
I do not see my work as listening to problems for that is not what clients bring to my office. Are they suffering? Yes! Do they want to tell their narrative of their suffering? Yes! But what they truly bring to me despite all that talk of their pain is the hope and faith that there is a way to turn things around. I have had only a few clients in 40 years that just liked to complain. I quickly sent them to someone else. Listening to their gossip and becoming an accomplish in their victimhood is not my job.
Most people want to know how to live better. They want the suffering to stop. They want to enjoy the rising sun, feel loved, enjoy the food they eat, know they are worth taking care of.
Start every day with a poem and a prayer. Watch your self-talk. Write out what you want to think and do for yourself. Talk to the people in your life about what you want to change, not just what you don't like. Go from there!
Wishing you the light of the stars and the warmth of the sun.
Jan Marquart LCSW, Author