Tuesday, November 18, 2014

When Feelings Stop

We can become the recipients of things happening to us that stops us from feeling our emotions. It is like being frozen in time. We think we are moving on but we honestly aren't. Some time, some where, in some form, the memory, the unresolved emotions will return and usually when they do matters feel worse. Sometimes we can get out of a situation, sometimes we cannot. Nevertheless, our emotional, physical, and psychological reactions have frozen so we can continue on as normally as possible.
Writing is a healthy way to get to the bottom of what we are experiencing. It helps us unlock the emotions that have frozen, the thoughts we don't allow ourselves to have because they might incite more pain, and the stress that is sending millions of Americans into doctor's offices for medication that only compounds the problem by suppressing the truth.
I recommend daily journal writing in order to allow yourself to express the numbed emotions and reactions. Write down the thoughts you have about the situation. This process can be overwhelming to do it alone. I highly recommend that you consult with a therapist to help you through this process. This is the state of PTSD and it needs healing and on some level we all have it. PTSD comes from many levels of abuse, either done to us or what we have done to others.
If you want more information on this, and my 6-week writing course on Write to Heal, please contact: jan_marquart@yahoo.com
Keep the pen moving,
Jan, LCSW, Author of 11 books, and CEO and Founder of About the Author Network

Saturday, November 8, 2014

Writing Grief

Grief can be a paralyzing emotion as it takes us directly into the heaviness of a present moment. It is like a huge monster that eats up our energy pushing us down further and further into sharp pain. Anyone who has experienced such grief will tell you that it seems there is no way out. One tool to slowly help move the moments from the darkness of the present to a lighter experience is to write about the feeling of grief and what is causing it. Acknowledge it, express it, write it out in every detail on every level. I say every level because grief will hold anger, sadness, helplessness, and more depending on the reason for the grief. Although therapists speak to the seven stages of grief it would be more effective if you came up with your own stage as you write in the moment.

Writing out experiences does not make unwanted experiences disappear. Writing can, however, lighten up the power grievous experiences have on us so the pain can lessen or be suspended until healing begins.

Keep the pen moving,
author of Write to Heal  www.CreateSpace.com/4333170