Tuesday, July 10, 2018

Take Ten

How many times do you put effort into making something happen but when it doesn't you try a little harder? How many times do you think, just one more effort, just ten more minutes, just a little more, just a little more effort? Sometimes a little more effort works so we think this is always the best path, right? A little more effort might work when you are trying to pull up something heavy out of the washing machine versus needling someone to do what you want them to do.

And I am not talking about finishing a college course in which you have to push to the defined end to get accomplished in something. I am speaking to something you want to happen that is probably not fully in your control that you push and push thinking you can make something happen that clearly you aren't able to bring to fruition with force, nagging, bartering, crying or the like. Stop! Take ten minutes.

Walk around the block, walk around the living room, walk around your desk. Take ten.

Rest is important. Realize this lack of success is not your failure, it is a message that you are not fully in control or isn't meant to be. I understand that letting go might feel like you have given up. What's wrong with that if you realize your efforts are being wasted and not producing the desired results? Implementing your wisdom is a good thing. Take ten. Take another ten if you have to and rethink the matter. If you hear that little voice in your head said all your efforts are not worth it, then let it go. If you can't seem to let it go forever, let it go for now. Take ten!


Blessings,
Jan
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Monday, July 9, 2018

Write Your Way to Sleep

Want a good night sleep and awake refreshed? Try this. Before you turn out the lights write out a list of situations in your life for which you are grateful and appreciative.

This writing exercise will put you in a positive and relaxed state of mind and allow your nervous system to relax. You are now in a much better state to fall asleep and stay asleep.

Focusing on problems when you climb into bed is not a good state of mind and tenses your nervous system. Remember, if you give your mind a problem, it will stay up to try and help you resolve it. That's what our mind does: it solves problems.

Blessings,
Jan
www.JanMarquart.com
www.AwareLivingNow.blogspot.com
www.FreethePen.wordpress.com

Friday, July 6, 2018

Protecting All Life

In the 70s people protested against the increased use of plastic because it was being dumped into the oceans. And now we have a serious problem with plastic in our oceans.

We must remember that to save our planet there must be a higher purpose to whether we use these products or not. A few states are going to reverse the plastic bag use at the supermarket. Please do not use these bags. Please use reusable bags. Use the kind of bags you can throw in the washing machine  so if juices spill on them they can be properly cleaned.

Please be aware of what using plastic bags does to the oceans. For those of you who like to eat fish, it impacts fish. For those of you who like to swim and enjoy the water you will be swimming with plastic all around you. Just because you don't see a plastic bag float by does not mean it hasn't decomposed and its fibers are floating right next to you.

Please be aware of how we take care of our world. The products we use and toss in the garbage have to go somewhere and will have an impact on our ocean, air and water.

Blessings,
Jan
www.JanMarquart.com
www.AwareLivingNow.blogspot.com
www.CanYouFindMyLove.com


Thursday, July 5, 2018

Can't Sleep?

The brain resolves problems. If you have a problem on which your thoughts are focused, your mind will be actively put to work. We can call that worry, perseverating, obsessing and other diminutive words.  But if you realize that all that unsettling is really your mind trying to resolve the problem for you, wouldn't you think differently? Your mind is doing exactly what you want it to do, fix things.

Try this. When you can't sleep because your mind will not let go of a problem, get a pen and pad and write out the problem. Then write three to five possible solutions to that problem. Don't rule out every solution because of some minor detail. Write it anyway. Then write a few sentences for each solution about how possible it is. Write out all the fears and reliefs in each solution.

Finally, choose one solution you will be willing to start the next day.

Sit quietly for five minutes knowing you are on the way to have your problem resolved. Now turn out the light and slip into sleep.

Blessings,
Jan
www.JanMarquart.com
www.FreethePen.wordpress.com

Wednesday, July 4, 2018

Inner and Outer Agreement

We all know people who put up one face when they are in the presence of friends and another when they are alone or finally confiding to a trusted friend. Isn't that what suicide is about? We didn't see the signs, we weren't aware our friend needed help, we thought they were happy. Then when day we get the call that gives us the horrific news.

It is not just those suicidal who give the world the wrong message about who they are. Everyone does it? How do you do it? What are you afraid people will find out about you? How do you want to be more authentic in who you are?

These existential questions are important not just to be authentic to the world but to be authentic with yourselves. How many of you are burning with things to say or teach or reveal? What would happen if you became the person you know yourself to be? What would happen if you stood up, with shaking courage, to those you disagree with?

Blessings,
Jan
www.JanMarquart.co
www.FreethePen.wordpress.com

Tuesday, July 3, 2018

Red Flags

I posted this issue once before but I want to state it again. When women make a list of red flags about men based on past relationships they are missing the true red flags. I understand the want to never find a man like the one whom you just left. I understand writing out the kind of man you want and the kind of man you don't want. I understand the dream for the 'right' partner.

But if you listed everything you thought was a red flag about someone you might miss the boat. No one is perfect. The best way to find the right man is to listen to your own inner gut reactions. How many times were you bothered in your last relationship because he demeaned you or showed up late for dates? Maybe he stood you up a few times. Maybe he wouldn't invite you to family functions because he was embarrassed. Maybe he was rude to your friend, or cheated on his wife, or neglected his children when they were crying. All those times you made excuses for him because you thought his behavior was excusable might really have been your own intimidation from speaking to him or leaving him. Those inner red flags are the ones that said, I don't want a man who does this, this isn't okay, or I don't want a man to treat me and others like this, ever. Yet, you stayed because you paid more attention to him than yourself.

This is a huge one for women. They get themselves in deeper and deeper because they shut down their voices to listen to his, because they don't see their worth and stand up for it, because they don't feel wantable. Believe in yourself before you believe them.

Blessings,

Jan
www.JanMarquart.com
www.FreethePen.wordpress.com

Monday, July 2, 2018

Can I Help?

These are times of increasing anger and refusal to look on those unlike us as worthy. Ram Dass wrote a book that changed my thinking. It is called, How Can I Help? and I encourage you to check it out.

Read this quote:
The measure of a country's greatness is its ability to retain compassion in times of crisis. -Thurgood Marshall, US Supreme Court Justice (2 Jul 1908-1993)

Let's de-Trump our attitude. Let's realize that we are one nation under God, indivisible, with justice for ALL.

Blessings,

Jan
www.JanMarquart.com
www.FreethePen.wordpress.com